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Bob P.'s avatar

As Dostoevsky wrote in "Notes from Underground, "If all man had to do was sleep, eat cake and create the next generation, he would perform some evil trick and tear it all down. " Material satiation is not the answer to happiness. Humans need challenges. They need something to push against and to accomplish.

As an older man I have a sense that life has many phases. One major phase, which takes place in one's 20s and 30s, is that of narcissism and that "everything is about me." If you were lucky and had good parents, they told you how special you were and you believed them.

Humans, and particularly young men, often transition out of this narcissistic phase when they meet a wonderful woman and get married. Suddenly, they have responsibilities beyond their own, personal petty wants. They now have some responsibilities for another human being.

Having children is the next major step in civilizing men. They now learn the real meaning of "sacrifice" and commitment to others. Often later in life both men and women must provide support and help for aging parents, which is another life lesson in the move away from narcissism.

Some folks eventually learn that the real road to happiness is one lined with sacrifice, commitment and dedication. Best put: Service to Others. If one lives their life in such a way that even one other person breathed a bit easier because they existed , then and only then, may they even consider that they lived a moral, honorable, worthwhile life. A successful life.

Just an old soul livin' in a new world.

PS: I just turned 77 in May 2024. I currently am in good health both physically and cognitively. I go to the gym every day. I write essays, short stories and commentaries. I essentially live my life in the service of 1) My Wife 2) Our Grown Children 3) Our Grandchild 4) My elderly sister 5) My dear friends 6) My neighbors 7) My community 8) My nation. Me? Where do I rank myself? Somewhere in the top 20.

Lorenzo Bonfiglio's avatar

I think you need to punch through the econ and material progress to the nastier political economy question of relative status, positional goods, resentment

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